I can’t wrap my head around this today folks. It turns out that people feel rather negatively about a birth plan. Yesterday, I placed a comment that Matt and I had completed our first draft of our birth plan and that it was at 1 3/4 pages. Probably after I format it, it will be one page. (This was our homework from class).
To my surprise, most of the comments to that post were negative in nature. Many people felt to just throw away the birth plan. That they didn’t need one. Or they just went along with the nurses. That is totally fine if that works from them, but I’m curious about the negative reaction to just building or having a birth plan.
When people think Birth Plan, I think they think of a woman that comes in with a binder of details. A person who doesn’t realize that some flexibility is needed, and is crushed when things don’t go according to plan. Or maybe people don’t understand that a birth plan covers so much more than the literal birth.
For example, sure my birth plan covers that I want a natural birth – no drugs – no induction. But in the case of c-section (healthy baby healthy mom mantra), I have details on what I want to happen if I HAVE to get one. Outside of that, I feel the most important things are defined. I want Skin to Skin for two hours. I want no visitors during that time. I want Skin to Skin before Pumpkin is washed or taken away. I don’t want a pacifier used at ALL.
Nurses are wonderful, but I’m not okay with leaving choices up to last minute. Especially when I might not be in the best mindset to make decisions. I will go over my Birth Plan with my OB at our next appointment. Based on the reactions on my Facebook page, I wonder if people understand the things they can control.
Here are some models of Birth Plans I used when creating my Birth Plan:
The Bump – has a great multiple choice PDF that basically works through all the stages of labor. It’s long though because of the formatting. So use it as a guide to build yours off of.
BabyCenter has a good multiple choice sheet as well. Little bit less on the details.
Before creating my birth plan I mostly joked it’s actually more of a Birth Flow Chart (programming joke). But really, it should cover your preferences in case of anything happening during labor. The theme is always healthy mom- healthy baby, but there are still ways to make sure things happen as how YOU want it to. On your terms. There is no reason any woman should feel out of control, misunderstood, or upset at her labor. With planning, hospital staff should respect a mom’s wants and try to accomodate as much as they can within the healthy baby- healthy mom mantra.