I’ve mentioned this online before, but every week I find a different reason to be thankful for the women in my tribes. There is a certain level of support that gives me an outlet to be honest with myself and others. I think the honesty comes out so easily because other moms are being honest too. Or you hope they are. Really there is little advantage to trying to portray yourself as perfect. It’s best to be honest, get over the guilt and get answers. But most of all, it helps you feel normal because other moms are going through it too.
My online tribes are SoCalLadyBloggers and MomsLA. Both groups have a blogging focus but have also been there for me.
In real life, I have found meetings at the PumpStation to be invaluable. Meetings are $5, but I look forward to each Monday to attend. I love that it gets me out of the house like a normal person, but it’s also great to be in a room with women that have newborns around the same age. Everyone brings their babies and it’s awesome to see how they are all developing. I am enjoying meeting the other moms and making friendships. There is something about this time in my life, this experience that makes these friendships so valuable.
Starting in April, I am enrolled in the Mommy and Me group at the Pump Station. It’s a 90 minute part mom help, part developmental play class. The class runs for eight weeks. Some of my friends from the weekly meetings are joining this group (which is defined by age) so it will be great to know some people from the start.
I have an entire post coming about Gymboree, but that has been a great place to meet other moms and socialize as well. Most of the time is spent on child development, but the classes are so small that you get to know the other moms as well. Again providing that support that is so important.
Can you do it alone? Sure. But why? Even if you don’t share, it’s valuable to hear other’s questions. And to get out of the house. Some hospitals have free meetings if money is an issue.
In other support news, looks like the CDC is saying that babies are being fed solids too soon. That they should be given breastmilk or formula until age 6 months. But many are starting at 4 months or younger. I know I’m aiming for 6 months. Would love a year, but pumping this much may prove to be too difficult. What are your thoughts? When did you feed your baby solids?