Last year at this time, I was already a Mother. But I didn’t want to celebrate because I was around five weeks pregnant and I was FREAKED OUT that something bad would happen. I remember my husband getting me flowers on Mother’s Day and I cried. After eight months of trying we were finally going to be a family.
One year later, Pumpkin is literally laying right next to us at times I still can’t believe it. This little miracle is changing our lives every day.
As I celebrate being a mom this year, I look back and want to give a few words of advice to any moms-to-be for this mother’s day.
1) When your husband says you are beautiful, say thank you. You may not feel it depending on how many months you are along, but trust me, everyone else can see it. You are beautiful and are going through an amazing time in your life. Enjoy it.
2) Take a few moments this Mother’s Day to appreciate two things you won’t get again once you have your baby… sleep and quiet moments.
3) Once you have your baby, let the women in your life help you. Recovery from birth is hard and people around you love you and want to help. Encourage people to bring food. It’s too dang hard those first few weeks to think about having to make dinner.
4) Put down the websites, the books and take time to think about the mom you want to be. Know that there isn’t just one way to parent and make choices guilt free.
5) Be Guilt Free. I believe there is so much hostility/guilt moms deal with concerning the choices they make and it starts now. Do this every day, but take this day to celebrate yourself and work on that confidence. You’ll need it for the various decisions you will need to make when the little one comes
6) Last, find your tribe. It’s more than letting women help you in real life. Find moms around you. Find a support group. Trust me, it’s the best thing you can ever do. Because no one is supermom. It won’t be easy. But at least with your tribe..you can laugh about it.